It's not what you'd think. It is NOT a calculated effort to bring them to eye-rolling, babbling insanity. It is because they previously had something to do all day. And, now, they don't. That's a lot of energy with no place to go. Except to try to find helpful things to do at home. In many families, the husband ceded control of the household to his wife. She had sole right to: Plan meals Buy food Decorate Organize the house Do chores on HER schedule Pay bills Now, she finds another adult with time to kill, and a deep-seated desire to be useful. So, that adult wants to take on some of her job. Now, some women can look at this as an opportunity to 'retire'. To let go of part of her previous job. To free up some time for hobbies, socialization, FUN! Others, not. For that second group, this is THEIR stuff. And, if someone tries to assist them with THEIR stuff, they BETTER do it the way she says. Or else. It's a control issu...
My Adventures Before and After Retirement
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. Herm Albright